Let’s talk about the need to please

When we want to please others at all costs, we aren’t being true to ourselves. The fear of displeasing others keeps us small and untruthful. How can we shine our light if it’s turned off? How can we be an inspiration to others if we hide parts of ourselves? You need to be completely honest with yourself and show the world your true self – qualities and strengths as well as flaws and weaknesses. By being your true self, you show others they too can be their true self.

Some people will like you and some won’t. Those who’ll like you are those who share some of your qualities or strengths or who see themselves in you. Those who won’t like you are those who have no affinity with you or who feel insecure around you for some reason. And it has nothing to do with you; it has to do with their beliefs, which are based on their programming/conditioning, their fears and their traumas.

So be your true self, live your life authentically and you’ll know true friendship and love. Your real friends are the people who love you just as you are. They don’t want to change you and they don’t judge you or criticize you behind your back. They welcome the whole package – your flaws and your qualities, your shadow and your light. You’ll also know true freedom. The freedom to be exactly as you are, perfectly imperfect. You’ll then reclaim your place, which you’ve always been deserving of, and you’ll inspire people around you.

– Sylvie Grégoire